A Glass Half Full Outlook

So instead of stealing away for a dinner once or twice a week–Mistress and I are now able to steal away for a cup of coffee or lunch every now and then. We still have our weekly night-which we try to makespecial. But the time together is not what it once was.

Obviously this is not super-ideal. Mistress has blogged about this calling it “the trade off.”

I Concur

One of the reasons I eve have this blog going is at the prompting of Mistress–who has her own blog.  Together we catalog in some way, shape or form our lives in NYC in the scene and how we try to sustain and nurture a great FLR/Ds relationship through the murky waters of challenge that all relationships face.

Today-while I spent more than 12 hours driving to south Jersey and back (I spoke at a conference) Mistress posted a blog saying she had reached a point in her life where she was happy–and that in a lot of ways her life was coming together and I was a significant part of that.

(For a lot of reasons, Mistress’ blog is invite only right now, so I won’t link to it. But if you want an invite to read Kink in the city click and follow the directions).

Well, I concur.  Yes, there are still challenges ahead, but I feel like Mistress and I are in a good spot now, and our relationship is really strong and vibrant.

Going through this blog, you’ll see references to challenges we have faced and hurdles we have overcome.  The good news is that we have, and Mistress is the person I love.

I think Mistress getting started on her new career, and having some success early and being able to build on that has helped her greatly put things in order and take some of the “variables” out of her life.

I am so proud to be there with her, and to be a part of her life.

I can only hope Mistress will let me stick around–and be with her for a lifetime ahead.

Even When I am Not On the “A” Game, Mistress Loves Me….ahhhhh

I realize that I have kind of neglected this space some over the last few weeks, and its not intentional.  I am kind of on the verge of having a new blog to post–which is kind of a follow up to the last post I made (two weeks ago).  One of the reasons that has been so tough in coming out is because of the super hectic schedule I have been keeping the last two weeks….

I was in LA for two days two weeks ago, red-eyed home to make a 5 hour drive to a weekend long family event. Home in time to plan out a day trip to Boston (from NYC) and then make that trip.

In between, I have had to deal wtih a bunch of homefront shit, crazy last minute scheduling there and my oldest daughter’s birthday (she is still under 10 so these are really important to her).

Which brings us to tonight.

Mistress is really starting to do well with her new career in financial planning (if anyone needs some insights let me know and I will hook you up with Mistress for some consulting).  She is doing so well that our time together is paying the price right now–but this is a short term thing–and I want Mistress to keep on pushing it and be super successful.

Tonight was our chance to have some time together this week.  And in my mind, I sleep walked through the dinner.  I am just so fucking tired–beyond that point where you are over-tired and can function.  I just feel slow and tonight I felt like I was about two minutes behind the conversation–so I did not do my job holding up my end.

The good news though is that Mistress is so excited about her new career, she loves talking about it.

The other good news is that Mistress knows all of the details and this was not a problem.

And I am on my own case becaue to me, time with Mistress is premium, and I want it to be special. In my mind, tonight I was witty and full of energy.

In reality, I barely kept up with conversation and puncuated every statement I made with a yawn.

Still though Mistress hugged me, kissed me and made me feel special…

And this is why I love Mistress–because every now and then, I don’t have to bring the “A” game, and Mistress will cover for me.

Perhaps soon, I will be ready to take on that other post…in the mean time, no one has a better partner, lover, Mistress, girlfriend and friend than I do.

Trying to Find Time to Breath

My biggest fear though is that as I try to multi-task and be a successful executive, father, submissive and lvoer–I am failing on all fronts.

If only there were time to breath.

Keeping Focus Where it Should Be

After a 2-3 week search, Mistress is back in the workforce as of today.  Given the hard reality of the economic climate nationwide, and especially here in NYC-its a pretty nice testament to her that she was able to find a new job relatively quickly.

Who knows if this will be the right opportunity for her, but its so much easier to be in a position and keep an eye out than to be under the feeling of desperation.

And I know for her it was not an easy couple of weeks. There was a lot of pressure-some real, some self imposed, some inadvertently added by me…but through it all I tried to keep Mistress focused on the bigger picture, the task at hand.

Sometimes it was helping with resume writing and reviewing cover letters. Other times it was doing a scan for jobs or companies that would be a good fit for her. Other times it was just being there to hear her and assure her that this was not the end, and tomorrow is a new day.

I am so proud that Mistress got through all of this, that we got through all of this-and today starts a new chapter.  And this is not the D/s part of our relationship.  This is the BF/GF part and this is the part where we can be best friends too…where we can rely on one another for help and support.

Its not nearly as good as reading about a night at Paddles, or being taken by Mistress, or holding her for the night while our naked bodies are pressed to one another–but for us its just as important.

Good luck Mistress, I love you.

Getting to the end of the line…

Not a traditional D/s relationship blog. Rather its a mid-point look at a stressful week, and the questions I am pondering.

yin/yang-yes it can work…

Last night my Mistress posted on Her blog about how comfortable She feels lately with me, and its all due to better communication.  And as is usally the case, it got me thinking…

Clearly, the way Mistress has pushed me to be more open, and communicate with Her has helped Her to feel better.  But i also think Mistress and i have a good symbiotic relationship…

Call it a yin/yang

Where Mistress and i are able to compliment each other.  Our relationship has in a lot of ways grown both in and out of the D/s scene.  And through it all, Mistress has pushed me (diet, exercise, weight control, communication, being a better sub)…and i have pushed Mistress (taking care of Herself, career advancement, minding Her health).  Overall, we have intertwined  much of our lives–for the better.

The yin/yang-and yes, i am the luckiest boyfriend, sub and boy around.

Sometimes, a Lesson is Learned…

So, i have to admit, today netted out as a really good day. Want to why? It was a VM i got from my Mistress. It meant the world to me-because i think it shows that i have become a different person, and i have Her to thank for it.

Along with working wiht me on my diet and exercise, Mistress has really tried to put me in touch with my feelings, and share them and express them. And there are numerous ways Mistress has done this. Through probing questions, long conversations and also by “encouraging” me to take a moment and recognize things. (and i should make sure i clarify in this case encouraging does not only mean at the business end of a whip or cane).

So, today was Mistress’ first day at a new office. One of the areas i have been helping to push Mistress is on the career side. And yes, i did just say that i have been pushing my Mistress. We have a relationship-and we each bring pieces to that relationship that makes it vibrant. In this case, i know something about management, business communication and corporations–so i help my Mistress just as She has helped me.

Knowing that today was to be Her first day at the office, i had a nice flower arrangement sent with a card that offered her my congratulations on this step. I am serious when i say, this is not something i would have done for anyone a year ago. Perhaps i would have sent an email or text-but there is no way i would have taken the extra step and ordered the flowers and made sure that She felt special on Her day.

But i want to do this for my Mistress. Not only because its important to Her. Because its important for me to show Her that She has the support to succeed. And it was important for this to be a surprise.

Even though Mistress and i spent Saturday night together and had a great time i managed not to ruin the surprise.

Admittedly, i was a little nervous today. The thought in the back of my head is that the flowers don’t arrive, or i got the address wrong.  Slowly the day ticks by (and remember my day starts at 430 in the gym) and i don’t hear from Mistress. Then suddenly i get a call from Her at about 130.

That of an in itself is rare. Both Mistress and i are at work, and our normal communication is text or twitter-so a phone call is usually reserved for something big. And to be honest i did not think of the flowers, instead i was thinking about what could have happened. So i texted Mistress and told Her that i would call Her back when the call i was on was over. “Not a problem,” was Her response.

So my call ends, and i dial into my VM–and there it was, a big thank you for the flowers.

Yes. Score.

A lesson learned.