Chivalry, chivalrous and devotion

Mistress and I were talking about chivalry and the scene the other night. Yeah, its kind of hard to believe that the two can be mutually exclusive-yet somehow there are times I have seen at events where it appears to be true.

On July 4th, Mistress and I spent the better part of the day and evening together, and just some basic things made me think that chivalry is not quite dead (at least for me) and its not about D/s its about good manners-what I like to call wiping your own ass.

First came some help with her laundry. Mistress does her laundry in a laundromat across the street from her place.  I was there to help haul the clean (and hot) clothes up the stairs.

Then came a quick run to the supermarket.  This was the first time Mistress and I went to the supermarket together.  Essentially, my role here was to carry the haul up the stairs of her second floor walk up-straight muscle job.  I am only to happy to do so.  There are a lot of things that I can’t do-carry a small cart of groceries up two flights of stairs I am only too happy.

Finally, Mistress and I went for a nice dinner out at an out-door cafe near her house. Mistress got a little chilly during the evening, so I made the 9 block walk back to her place to get her a sweatshirt.

You could say its my role to do these things-after all we live a D/s relationship with FLR dynamic.

But that’s not it. Its about manners and being able to wipe my own ass.

Fet Night Part Deux

So last night Mistress and I kept up our mutual promise to keep the kink in our relationship alive by doing our second fet night.  For those who need a little reminder, Mistress and I committed to setting time aside at least monthly to feed our fetish side–and be able to be straight up Mistress/slave (and less BF/GF) at least for a few hours.

And a fun night it was indeed.

I arrived at Mistress’ place around eight, and she was dressed for the part–easily I fell to my knees and worshipped Mistress’ ass as she stood before me in a tight black top, stockings and her Prada boots.  After some quality worship time it was off to Paddles.

it was a TES night at Paddles last night–some kind of Mardi Gras party–I didn’t quite get the difference in the night other than Goddess Coko walking around handing out beads (which was incredibly nice and both Mistress and I have plenty.

We got there at the tail end of a TES (I think) spanking discussion group.  Mistress and I sat down for the end of that. Not sure overall what to think of the event, but like most of the scene type events I have gone to it seemed OK.  What Mistress will likely admit was a huge coupe for her for the night, after the session ended, someone (I think a switch) who was at the seminar came to Mistress and introduced herself as a regular reader of Mistress’ blog.

The night had lot of fits and starts…first Mistress and I did a very playful scene on the rack bed in Paddles.  Mistress had my hands up over my head (stretched out my back nicely) and we did some tickling and some bastinado foot bondage. This was a first for me.  During this, while some pain was inflicted, Mistress was very sensuous, and we laughed a lot.

Mistress would later make up for that–as I spent a solid 45 minutes over the whipping post.  Mistress can really dish during these times–and I am determined to not just take what Mistress administers, but to do so with the thought that I cam pleasing my Mistress.

This was an interesting session as well–because by this time, along with the Mardis Gras crew there was an additional group of TES newbies in the place–so there was quite the crowd, and quite the crowd who had never seen a beating like Mistress can administer.

Have I ever mentioned Mistress is always one to play to a crowd?

So, as soon as there was a nice gathering, she unfurled her signature Catwoman whip throw to the ooohs and ahhs of the audience.  Along the way there was a lot of questions and Mistress (as she is apt to do) spent time answering others on technique and product.

I ended up with a nice hot ass, some marks on my back, and Mistress says a little blood was spilled.

Perhaps one of the moments right after though was truly a cap on the night. A couple of members from the newbie group came up to chit-chat.  Now I just spent 45 minutes over the whipping post, was a little dehydrated and was kind of coming out of my little sub-space. And the reality is some of the questions were pretty dumb.  So I didn’t say anything.

One of the newbies asked if I was allowed to speak–I did manage not to say, “Yeah. Just don’t see the need to speak with you.” Just keeping it real yo.

Mistress and I spent some time at the Paddles bar area–commenting on some of the folks we saw and scenes that played out–and yes Mistress there are others who like to show off all the moves–

Then tired, in love and feeling good it was off to bed to hold my Mistress’ naked body against mine.

Loving fet nights, and loving my Mistress.

The end of a great weekend

So, as this Sunday winds down, I have to admit I can look back at the weekend and feel really good about it–and truly smile.  And two keys that are not lost on me is that: 1) most of it was spent with my Mistress whom I truly love and cherish and 2) it was spent at “open” D/s events; something a year ago I would have hyperventilated at.

It started Friday night when Mistress gave a presentation on D/s dating for DSF. It was great to be there to support Mistress, spend time with some friends and to take in the Paddles experience in a different way than the first time I went there with Mistress.

Last night Mistress and I went to what has become a really great gathering of scene people in a non-scene setting–where we can just as easily talk about hockey, strat-o-matic baseball or being whipped and beaten.

Because of work the MTA is doing on the subways system in NYC, and the really bad weather in NYC last night, Mistress and I decided to drive into the city–even being lost in Queens, and part of western Brooklyn were not so bad. We had a good time in the car chatting (even when I was going thw wrong way on a one-way street), the time went by all too fast.

And there is nothing better than waking up with my Mistress in my arms.

Not lost on me-a year later, I am at ease able to talk to people (ok, they are scene people) about being kinky–and being out and about.

I do love my Mistress.

communication is the make or break for a relationship

from anyway you look at things, my relationship with Mistress is on a really good roll right now–and its been this way for awhile-and the reason is because She and i have found a new simplified way to communicate-we do it.

of course reaching this point was not easy. in fact it came after a rocky period where we had problem communicating-so it is a fragile kind of thing. but i think now, Mistress and i have a much better understanding of how we can communicate, why we need to communicate and how good it feels to communicate.

i was reading a post of mf today which was sort of a manifesto of sorts about lifestyle relationships (as opposed to pro relationships) and it drove home many of the points that Mistress and i have come to realize….

that to make it work, we are a couple first and foremost. we have a relationship. while its based on a D/s dynamic, we are in this to support one another. and the reality is the work of supporting one another is communicating.

its kind of funny looking back, because a month or so a go we were not in such a good spot. in fact, i was pretty sure (and Mistress has confirmed this) that we were going to meet for dinner to discuss how to maintain a friendship–but no be a couple because neither of us was getting the support we needed. instead, the walls breaking communication came crumbling down-and i think Mistress and i went to another level.

now, i can hardly imagine not being able to hold and cuddle with Mistress. my caring of Mistress and Her desires is so deep, and my trust of Her is so total that since then i have even gone to “scene” events with Her. something i honestly could not have imagined doing even three months ago. because i know i am in this with Mistress and we are together in this.

its amazing what can happen when two people commit to communicate.

next stop hurdle for me is paddles. its something Mistress wants to do, and i will make it happen for Her-because i know when i ask Mistress for something the answer is yes–so there is no way i can say no to Her, and no way i would want to. Mistress is my partner on this journey-and together we are strong, and making each other stronger.