Its Supposed to be Fun

Over the weekend, Mistress and I went to a couples play-party in update NY. I won’t go into details as to where and what the group was because I want to respect the privacy of the group and the hosts of the weekend–but I did have a D/s ephiphany of sorts–its supposed to be fun.

communication is the make or break for a relationship

from anyway you look at things, my relationship with Mistress is on a really good roll right now–and its been this way for awhile-and the reason is because She and i have found a new simplified way to communicate-we do it.

of course reaching this point was not easy. in fact it came after a rocky period where we had problem communicating-so it is a fragile kind of thing. but i think now, Mistress and i have a much better understanding of how we can communicate, why we need to communicate and how good it feels to communicate.

i was reading a post of mf today which was sort of a manifesto of sorts about lifestyle relationships (as opposed to pro relationships) and it drove home many of the points that Mistress and i have come to realize….

that to make it work, we are a couple first and foremost. we have a relationship. while its based on a D/s dynamic, we are in this to support one another. and the reality is the work of supporting one another is communicating.

its kind of funny looking back, because a month or so a go we were not in such a good spot. in fact, i was pretty sure (and Mistress has confirmed this) that we were going to meet for dinner to discuss how to maintain a friendship–but no be a couple because neither of us was getting the support we needed. instead, the walls breaking communication came crumbling down-and i think Mistress and i went to another level.

now, i can hardly imagine not being able to hold and cuddle with Mistress. my caring of Mistress and Her desires is so deep, and my trust of Her is so total that since then i have even gone to “scene” events with Her. something i honestly could not have imagined doing even three months ago. because i know i am in this with Mistress and we are together in this.

its amazing what can happen when two people commit to communicate.

next stop hurdle for me is paddles. its something Mistress wants to do, and i will make it happen for Her-because i know when i ask Mistress for something the answer is yes–so there is no way i can say no to Her, and no way i would want to. Mistress is my partner on this journey-and together we are strong, and making each other stronger.